If you want to be with a woman or love a woman who you consider special and "Goddess-like" and a woman who considers herself a “ heart centered, spiritually conscious woman”(and I only speak to whom that applies) please know that she needs you to acknowledge her words, her depths, her emotions, and her spirit along with the physical consistently. She needs you to see her in her fullness as a human and a divine being. She loves being claimed lovingly and feeling wanted, beautiful and desired, she appreciates that, and she values that very much.
But if you are unable to meet her on all levels in doing so, the physical connection will lose it’s potency and it’s appeal no matter how charming you are. A spiritually lazy man will not win her affections. Interacting with spiritually conscious and spiritually unconscious women are a much different experience. Be clear on who you are involved with and who YOU truly want as a partner.
A heart centered spiritually conscious woman will be nice to you, because she is kind, compassionate, and mature. She will see your greatness and best self deep down always, and she would never wish to hurt you, but she won’t take you seriously as a partner or let you ever get too close if you don’t know how to honor the entirety of her being. Honoring her once or twice or only when you get to be with her physically is not healthy soil to grow the type of connection that is possible with her type.
This connection needs to be nourished and properly tended to in all stages of connection with her. She lives life on all levels, not to be connecting on the superficial level only with a partner. She wants to give you the benefit of any doubts, but she is intelligently cautious and sees through the ego and the games.
She has the discipline she needs to resist half-assed attempts to connect with her. If you can only meet her physically or superficially, she will lose interest and passions will wane. Romance is empty without authentic focused presence, that presence which is needed to uphold the powerful connection she desires and is capable of sharing with you.
If powerful, passionate, authentic connection is something you don’t want, if that is too much work, then you are probably a bad match for the type of woman you claim to love or want.
She needs you to honor your intuition, to follow your heart, and be honest in that and with her. Tell her the Truth, even if it is something that will make her sad or mad. A heart centered spiritually conscious woman will be honest about her feelings but not tear you down because of yours. She will feel the sadness but understand and then let it go.
She will accept you as you are and respect your honesty in all situations. She will not want to live behind a rose colored shield. She appreciates the Truth. She will not force or coerce you into being a person you are not, but she will know where she stands in your life based on who you are right now.
Be honest with yourself and with her. If you are not ready to treat her differently than you have maybe treated other women in the past, then maybe you are not ready to be treated differently either.
That is ok. We are all at different phases on our road in life and love. But let’s be honest and clear about who and where we are.
Don’t chase after someone you couldn’t keep up with consistently anyway, even if she let you catch her a couple times.
A deep authentic, satisfying, powerful, connection in mind, body, and soul takes work and even more work in a long term connection.
There is a time to lead and a time to follow and the intuitive common sense to know the difference. There is a time to speak and a time to listen. There is a time to be and a time to do. Listen closely to your thoughts, your dreams, your desires, your fears and joys. Share those things with her.
This work is energy work. It’s focused energy. It’s awareness. It’s life force energy. It’s creative energy. It’s sensual energy. It’s the energy of divine love.
That is what makes some connections so beautiful, brilliant, potent and magical and the lack of that is what makes some so mediocre, not so satisfying, or not worth the time to focus on them.
Some amazing connections initially can become useless or even toxic to both people involved later, if one or both people are not doing their part in staying present with these energies within the relationship and within themselves.
A heart centered spiritually conscious woman will love you unconditionally and she will help bring the best out of you. But only you can receive that fully and do what you need to do to meet her halfway.
She will acknowledge your sweet soul and all that you do for her and with her and for others. She will honor it intensely. She will find pleasure in your everyday actions of that nature. She will understand and forgive you when it’s necessary. She will be patient and treat you how she wants to be treated.
She will try her best to uphold that integrity. She may not always succeed in that in every situation but she will try and you will see that in her character. She will honestly try and put her ego aside and not project old stories, hurts, and situations onto you. But she will have boundaries for the benefit of you and herself.
She will not be a doormat. She will not play along to your old games and dramas either. She will not let you take her time, attention, affections and passion for granted. She values those who she shares herself with so intimately and expects you to as well.
She deserves being reminded of your appreciation and honor of her regularly not out of insecurity or desperation on her part or because she “needs” it, but because she deserves that small acknowledgement for all her energy she puts into her life and into her connection to you.
She is special because she does work that most are not yet ready to delve deep into yet. But you see it, you value that, and love that she does that and you want to let her know you see it and love it.
You are grateful that she lets you get so close with her even if it is just emotionally at first. You find pleasure in seeing her fill with gratitude and love from the simple acknowledgement of her true spirit.
Authentic fully embodied pleasure and bliss happens when all involved know the divine dance and connect from a very true place. Not just one person, but both. That is both a vulnerable and magical experience. It is special and unique. You can learn that together too if you are open to it. We can all learn more and show up more.
When you choose to ignore the sacred of her you disperse energy from the sacred container of your relationship, it loses some power. When you honor it, it strengthens and it grows.
It expands to cover much more than just your relationship together, it will affect and permeate your lives. It can be a channel for love for everyone, if that is what you choose.
By your choices, commitments, and actions and words, or your inactions and lack of communication, you hold the key to how far you go and how close you get to her.
*This was a post i wrote on my old blog Ecstatic Path. I posted it in July 2014. I may be in a new part of my life now but these words still have impact and significance to me. So today i am posting it again.*